Defense mechanisms are an interesting and need for survival until we start to use them against everyone and everything. I know that this comes about because of fear and doubt. We are so afraid of losing something that we think is ours. There are 100’s of these defenses, some are anger, frustration, humor, insanity, reluctance, sloth, power, and on and on. Me personally humor and sarcasm, were big ones for me and still are. I developed a very cutting sense of humor to keep you at bay or to manipulate a situation. There is also the tough guy image which is a way to hurt the world for the hurt I thought it caused me, this one is used by both sexes and is the most common. I spoke with a young women today who is using heroin, and she was trying to convince me how she could handle it and didn’t need people to tell her what she needed to do to get help (a classic addict and alcoholic defense). We are created to protect ourselves but to what length am I will to take it, ? I n some cases it may be to our demise.
I have had to be willing to go to any length to change, I heard yesterday that “I don’t make changes God does” , only partially, true, If I don’t take the action to change nothing changes. I have seen hundreds of people change through faith and action, making decisions and staying out of results. I must always be aware that my defenses are not always working in my favor and when I learn to let them down that, a stronger defense replaces it, a decision to have faith.
Peace, Lv M